With Your Relationships, Become the Type of Person You Want to Attract

Insights from the Abundance Codes Book

When it comes to your relationships, the type of people you attract will reflect the type of person you are. With more internal work, you’ll naturally achieve better relationships, because external interactions are a direct reflection of how you treat yourself.

In other words, you must embody the type of person you want to attract.

Stop asking questions like “Why are my friends so selfish?” or “Why doesn’t my partner remember to do these things for me?” Let’s rephrase those questions.

Go from victim mode to accepting responsibility by asking yourself something like:

“Why am I attracting this sort of behavior in my life?”

By accepting responsibility for the less-than-ideal relationships in your life, you become the person you want to attract. If you want your friends to be less selfish or your partner to be more thoughtful, then the answer is simple: be less selfish or be more thoughtful.

Think of the friend or partner you want to have, and be that person.

If you need guidance on how to do this, let’s walk through a process that will help.

Define What You Need to Become

Let’s start by throwing off the shackles of what limits us with relationships.

First, it’s unproductive to think you need someone else to become the person you want to embody. That’s a scarcity mindset, which is the opposite of abundance. Instead, recognize the power of looking internally to attract whatever you want in life.

Here’s another limiting factor: always feeling that life is casting you into difficult relationships and you are not in control of whom you interact with.

Flip that belief on its head by taking out a piece of paper and writing down this phrase:

I am __________.

Fill in the blank with an adjective that describes what you should become to attract the type of relationship you want: good parent, loving, caring, amazing lover, etc.

Physically Activate Your New Belief

Keep this adjective in mind as you work through this physical exercise.

Ensure you have a clear breathing path through your nose. Inhale while stretching your arms forward. Exhale as you pull your arms inward, so that your elbows rest along your waist. Do this several times and feel your core clearing the energy from within.

Inhale deeply and hold it there. Activate your fists and muscles, and bring your chin inward, pointing toward your chest. Exhale slowly while relaxing everything.

Inhale deeply and hold it there. Activate your fists and muscles, and bring your chin inward, pointing toward your chest. With your arms inward, relax your jaw and move your head from side to side several times without tension.

Exhale slowly while relaxing everything again.

What Needs to Happen Next?

Now that you know you need to become the person you want to attract, write down how you will make that happen. Ask yourself, “When I connect to the version of me that is being who I want to attract, how does that version of me show up?”

Write down what you’ll do, how you’ll live, and what you’ll look like.

Go into vivid detail and have fun with this exercise.

This will bring you one step closer to making the next version of yourself a reality. Commit to being that higher version of yourself all day. Don’t allow yourself to get caught up in your old pattern of blaming others for your relationships.

When you feel that counterproductive mindset arise, stop yourself.

In that moment, your tendency is to think something like “Why aren’t they paying attention to me?” Instead, rephrase that question as:

“What am I going to do to change this situation right now?” Then come back to your core and tell yourself “I am full. I am what I’m looking for on the outside.”

For more advice on becoming the type of person you want to attract, you can find The Abundance Codes at https://abundancecodes.com/the-abundance-codes-book or, comment below with “Abundance” and we’ll send you more details about The Abundance Codes.

Regan & JuanPa
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